Thanksgiving. A time to be near those you love and be thankful for the blessings that abound. In our family, we are grateful for the love and acceptance from our friends and family. Those who have wrapped their arms around us, even when they don’t understand the journey. They have been open and willing to learn outside of the binary. Therefore, today we will discuss some Thanksgiving prayers for families outside the binary.
On the other hand, we are painfully aware of those in the transgender community who have been ostracized by their family, who do not have a home to go to, and those who have been victimized by domestic violence or lost their lives.
We recognize those who have been turned out onto the streets without the means to live, before their time. That is to say, they do not have healthcare and sometimes live in their high schools to finish school. We see you. You are important.
In our family, we are grateful for the friends and family who have not loved and accepted our authenticity. We have found a community that loves us, not because we conform to a religious standard or social norm, but because they see the beauty in the complexity of each human that walks on this planet. They understand that we all have value and, even when misunderstood, are deserving of respect.
This Thanksgiving I am grateful for the school that has welcomed my child and seeks to understand us where we are. Without expectation of conforming to their expectations. I am grateful that we have the means to be able to move away from the school district that forces my child to go to the bathroom in the nurse’s office. To clarify, the nurse continuously misgendered my child.
I am ever thankful for the abundance in our lives but am starkly aware of those children who are in families who lack the means to move out of the district, to extricate their child from the system.
Above all, I am thankful that we are raising four children who will never know the limits of authenticity. Since they were born, we have accepted and loved each of them for who they are. Dyslexic, compliant, wiggly, transgender, social, quiet, introverted, anxious, tenderhearted, cisgender.
Here are my Thanksgiving prayers for families outside the binary. Today I pray for the children and adults who are living according to the expectations of the home of their natal birth. I pray that their homes be open and welcoming of their authentic selves. If they are or are not, I pray that they can find hope and healing in the fact that there are those among us who understand. We have not walked in your shoes. We cannot comprehend the struggle, strife, and pain of rejection. It is harmful. They shouldn’t have. It is THEIR PROBLEM.
In the words of Steven Charleston: “Set the prisoners free, great Spirit, set all the prisoners free, all of us who are imprisoned, by our secrets or our sorrow, by our bodies or our minds, by our grief or our illness, imprisoned by the fear of others, by prejudice or injustice, by being who we were born to be, but cannot be, by relationships or mistakes, imprisoned by old memories or new anxieties, by a hurt we cannot heal, by a dream we cannot have, come and set all the prisoners free, all of us, set us free, do what we cannot do, throw wide the gates and let us run free, if only for now, if only for a while, if only forever.”
To sum, Happy Thanksgiving to those families outside of the binary. You will always be welcome at our table. You are unique and beautiful just the way you are.